The possibility of divorce is real at any age, of course, but many people tend to associate divorce with couples that are somewhat older. Some of these preconceptions may be driven by depictions on television and movies of mid-life crises driving couples apart in their forties and fifties. While such a situation may be a reality for some, for others, divorce may become necessary much earlier. For a recently-divorced young man or woman still in his or her 20s, life can become very complicated very quickly, especially if children are involved.
Where Do You Fit?
One of the toughest aspects for a newly-divorced twenty-something is the challenging of adapting to a new social reality. You may feel trapped between two worlds, particularly as a divorced mom or dad. In all likelihood, you probably do not have the freedom that once enjoyed a single person with no children but also may not seem to fit well with married couples and young families. You and your child may need to develop a routine that is all your own: make meals together and enjoy each other’s company. But be sure to take some time for yourself. It is important to avoid isolating yourself completely, and there is nothing wrong with going out to have fun once in a while.
The Long Road Ahead
When you get divorced at a young age, it can create an interesting paradox. On the one hand, the possibilities for your future may seem limitless. You are not stuck in an unhappy or unhealthy relationship, and you can pursue the things that make you happy. On the other hand, if you are a parent, you and your former spouse will probably continue some sort of relationship for the sake of your children. You will need to co-parent together for 10 or 15 years or more, and even the most cooperative post-divorce parenting situations will present a level of difficulty. By keeping both in perspective, you can continue to parent while exploring new opportunities for both yourself and for your children.
Good Divorce Over Bad Marriage
For many couples, divorce represents an escape from an unhealthy relationship that benefits neither the spouses nor the children. Parenting and family experts agree that happiness and stability that such a divorce can offer is much more beneficial for all involved than an “intact” family situation that fosters hostility, contentiousness, and stress on a regular basis.
At our law firm, we are committed to helping families just like yours find the happier future you deserve. With compassionate attention to your needs, we will guide you through the divorce process so that you and your children can experience all of the possibilities that life has to offer. Contact an experienced Orland Park family law attorney today to schedule your free initial consultation at Kezy & Associates.