Post-Divorce Tips for Newly Single Fathers
Divorce nearly always becomes more complicated and stressful when the process involves children. Disputes over parental responsibilities—formerly called child custody—and support payments tend to compound the difficulties that come with divorce proceedings, which may also involve asset division, alimony, and other matters.
Even after signing the final legal papers and developing child support and parenting plans, the work continues. Single parents—and particularly fathers—face an entirely new set of challenges as they try to carry on with their new lives.
A Significant Percentage
The Pew Research Center estimates that single fathers make up almost one-quarter of all single-parent households in America. As a result, various experts—legal, social, and otherwise—are turning their attention to helping these single fathers live a happy and healthy life with their children. It is important to note that Pew’s definition of “single fathers” includes divorced, separated, widowed and unmarried fathers.
What becomes immediately apparent to many newly single fathers is the realization that the work day no longer ends when they come home. The average 40-hour work week has become a virtual round-the-clock job as they must also address all of their children’s needs as well.
Trying to Do Too Much
While many single fathers are more than ready for this challenge, being a successful single parent is about more than parental dedication. No matter how much he tries, a single father can only do so much before he burns out, which could be dangerous for both him and his children. Single parents who work too hard often become fatigued, which leads to stress and strain on the relationship with their children. Seeking help and guidance from a family counselor may be beneficial in developing strategies to combat such concerns.
Seek Out Support
Single fathers should also rely on their own support network of family and friends to help with raising their children. It is important to realize that seeking help is not the same as shirking responsibilities. Instead, when done properly, extra help can some personal time while also serving as a way for the family to become more involved with the children. For example, if a father cannot drive his child to a sporting event, an uncle, aunt, or other family member can assist to ensure the child enjoys a well-rounded life.
We Help Divorced Dads
Following a divorce, many men face challenges remaining involved in the lives of their children. At Kezy & Associates, we are committed to helping parents of all types protect their rights and provide for their children’s best interest. To learn more, contact one of our experienced Orland Park family law attorneys for a free consultation today.